2014 is coming to an end!

*Gasps!*

Just less than 3 days and 2014 will officially be over! Time seems to zoom past as you age.. damn this is scary. I bet everyone is doing this now - writing down what have you gained and loss during the year, so I thought I ought to do the same. 

In 2014, I have learnt that I haven't exactly been a good friend who is able  to strike a balance between her friendship and relationship, though I must say I did try. I, just being me, am the type of girl who places love above anything else. I thought close friends ought to know that but sadly, the truth always disappoints. I spent the last month thinking about this question, "What are friends for?"., "Are they only needed when they are needed?" and "Do friends genuinely care about the plight you're in?" It was indeed a baffling question which I, myself, find it difficult to answer the question. I guess this is what happens when your friendship does not have substantial depth. 

Nevertheless, 2014 has been a fairly okay year for me. I guess the happiest thing was that I'm spending the year end with my lover. (Isn't it great to end and start the year with someone you love? :)) I am madly in love!  Though he pisses me off to no ends, sometimes I wish I could roundhouse kick his face but I still love him very much. 

On a side note, I'm finally left with my last semester! Though at some point of my time I am surely going to regret what I'm saying but heck, I CAN'T WAIT TO FREAKING GRADUATE!

Dating a vegetarian

I've been dating my boyfriend a couple of months now and that's right, he's a vegetarian.
I still vaguely remember telling my friends during my first year of polytechnic, "WHICH IDIOT WOULD DATE JD? HE'S A VEGETARIAN LEH.", and tada! It turns out that I'm the idiot who fell for his charms. :)

It was really weird at first because.. to be totally honest, i love eating meat. But thank goodness, he was really nice and told me to just eat whatever I want. yes many will say that problems will surface when the relationship gets longer but let's deal with now first okay? thanks for the concerns :) I guess that's why the reason why I love him so, he did not try to force me to be a vegetarian just so that I could be with him since we both believe that if I were to turn into a vegetarian, it should solely be the better for me and not for him. I had a friend who dated a vegetarian once and she couldn't come close to him because she just ate meat. Isn't that a tad too ridiculous? I guess then that's not love aye.

When I first told my friends that I was dating him, they gave me a really weird expression and this was one of the commonly asked questions from my friends:

1) Where do I go for dinner with him?
It doesn't have to be an all vegetarian restaurant. For him, just as long as the place sells one item that contains NO MEAT then it's fine. My best bet would be Italian restaurants since they do sell no-meat pastas or pizzas e.g. mushroom aglio olio or veggie pizzas. There is also a place that sells vegetarian sushi, Teng Bespoke Japanese Restaurant, holy bazooka I really loved that place!

Dating a vegetarian is not all that bad! According to an article from buzzfeed, one of the perks of dating a vegetarian is that you'll never have to worry about them snatching bacon from you!

So should you shun away if a vegetarian boy or girl falls in love with you?
My answer: wait and see because time will tell.
If the person, unfortunately, starts sending you gore videos of animals being slaughtered just so that you could change your mind about eating meat then obviously I think you should reconsider because I feel that there should be a mutual understanding. And as I have mentioned, such changes should only be the better for yourself and not just for your partner. Date around and see, you'll be opened to many new experiences that you've never had before. Trust me :)

Till then, xoxo.

Slice of life

It is now almost 3 in the morning and I'm still not asleep. My love is definitely gonna kill me if he manages to know that I am still up awake at such ungodly timing.

Started thinking about the past and it kind of upsets me every time I think about what happened. Now that I've gotten into a new relationship, I'm trying my best not to repeat the same mistakes as I have did before. Do not wish to put myself at risk, can't handle another relationship "tragedy". Not that I am weak or what but you know.. such relationship failure can really haunt you for life. All of that bloody trust issue and what not. 

Apart from all of that, I have been doing great! *Yipee* Life has been really good for me. I have met nice people along the way, pleasant things happening around me, and of course my boyfriend has also contributed a large part to my happiness. I thank God for that! As for studies.. I'm currently in my last year, gonna graduate in less than a year's time. Goodness, I swear time just practically flew pass. 

What about you? Have you been doing great too? 

Jolene is happy!

Time really flies! It is already March of 2014 and in 2 months time, I'll be flying off to Korea for a short vacation! A mini birthday treat from myself. Mad excited about it but I think I'll miss Cotton like hell.

I've been enjoying myself lately. Going out till late at night, singing karaoke, randomly going to play basketball (though my session only lasts 15 minutes but who cares. HAHA!) and also enjoying good food! Leney is the happiest girl now! Heh, can't wait to see you again during the weekends.

Anyway, I really love my new lipstick from Etude House! It is the "Dear My Blooming" lipstick series in shade PK013 (as seen above!). The color comes off pink-ier than I thought but I think it looks pretty well on me since I'm considered pretty fair! Actually I feel that it makes me look a little more 'korean-ish'! Hah! Cute packaging and pretty color, what's there not to love? Although there is a downside to it, it comes off pretty fast and requires reapplication from time to time but oh well!

How to get over a breakup

I am finally posting again!
Just went through a really bad period and wanted to hide away from my blog for a moment. But now I am alright and I thought I should blog to voice out certain thoughts.

My relationship with A has finally ended and it was really ugly. Never would I have thought that the man I truly loved would ever place me in such a bad situation. But nevertheless, both parties were at fault and should be blamed.

The initial period was really tough. Every single thing reminded me of him! His clothing, his shaver and some other personal items were all at my place! (This is what happens when you let your other half live at your place). The moment I looked at these items.. the only thing I could do was to cry. Coming from a very egoistical person, every time after I cried, I'd hate myself because I cannot succumb to the fact that this man left me for another but yet I am still here crying over him. The worst part was that I couldn't break it to my family that we have broken up as they already see him as a part of my family (my sister even calls him brother-in-law fyi).

It was really like a nightmare to me. I could neither eat or sleep well. I couldn't even concentrate in classes! But I decided  that this wasn't the right way to handle the breakup, especially since I know that he is better off without me.

I decided it was time to
1) throw all the items that he bought for me into a box (lock it up like a pandora's box)
2) dump all his tee-shirts away.
3) delete all unhappy/sad romantic love songs from your phone.
4) spend more time with family and friends (people who truly cares about you)
5) love myself more

The fifth item on the list is really something that I have learnt to do after this breakup and I urge all ladies to do the same. Of course there'd be times where you get upset and you just wish to cry the hell out of yourself and then reproach the man for leaving your life and ruining everything (these all begins in the initial stage and should stop as time gradually passes by) but ultimately, you HAVE TO LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF! Love yourself enough to know that the man has walked out of your life and has decided that you mean nothing to him. Love yourself to know that you are capable of bringing happiness to yourself. Start doing things that makes you happy! You can cook, sew, learn how to do mani/pedicure, learn how to doll yourself up or anything! Anything that makes you happy. Because you truly deserve happiness.