How to get over a breakup

I am finally posting again!
Just went through a really bad period and wanted to hide away from my blog for a moment. But now I am alright and I thought I should blog to voice out certain thoughts.

My relationship with A has finally ended and it was really ugly. Never would I have thought that the man I truly loved would ever place me in such a bad situation. But nevertheless, both parties were at fault and should be blamed.

The initial period was really tough. Every single thing reminded me of him! His clothing, his shaver and some other personal items were all at my place! (This is what happens when you let your other half live at your place). The moment I looked at these items.. the only thing I could do was to cry. Coming from a very egoistical person, every time after I cried, I'd hate myself because I cannot succumb to the fact that this man left me for another but yet I am still here crying over him. The worst part was that I couldn't break it to my family that we have broken up as they already see him as a part of my family (my sister even calls him brother-in-law fyi).

It was really like a nightmare to me. I could neither eat or sleep well. I couldn't even concentrate in classes! But I decided  that this wasn't the right way to handle the breakup, especially since I know that he is better off without me.

I decided it was time to
1) throw all the items that he bought for me into a box (lock it up like a pandora's box)
2) dump all his tee-shirts away.
3) delete all unhappy/sad romantic love songs from your phone.
4) spend more time with family and friends (people who truly cares about you)
5) love myself more

The fifth item on the list is really something that I have learnt to do after this breakup and I urge all ladies to do the same. Of course there'd be times where you get upset and you just wish to cry the hell out of yourself and then reproach the man for leaving your life and ruining everything (these all begins in the initial stage and should stop as time gradually passes by) but ultimately, you HAVE TO LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF! Love yourself enough to know that the man has walked out of your life and has decided that you mean nothing to him. Love yourself to know that you are capable of bringing happiness to yourself. Start doing things that makes you happy! You can cook, sew, learn how to do mani/pedicure, learn how to doll yourself up or anything! Anything that makes you happy. Because you truly deserve happiness.